James Kraig Kahler
When
people get divorced it is often said they are divorcing a different
person than they married. Many times they are divorcing an even
worse person than made them want to get a divorce in the first place,
if in fact it was they who wanted the divorce. Often when a divorce
occurs one of the parties is either surprised that things had gotten
that far or for one reason or another does not want the divorce.
There are a variety of reasons that people do not want to got through
a divorce from anything from status in the community, reputation to
finances or simply for companionship.
If
we are to believe the stories that friends and family would later
tell, Karen Kahler wanted out of her marriage for two reasons.
First, she claimed to many that her husband, James, who went by his
middle name of Kraig, was controlling and abusive. Secondly, Karen
had found a new love in Sunny Reese. It would be the latter that
defense attorneys would later say drove Kraig Kahler over the edge of
insanity. Prosecutors would claim that it was not insanity that
drove Kraig Kahler but anger, jealousy, and the need for revenge.
It
was Saturday, November 28, 2009 in the home of eighty-nine year old
Dorothy Wight in Burlingame Kansas where everything would change.
Dorthy's granddaughter, Karen Kahler and her three children were
visiting for Thanksgiving weekend. It is unclear where Dorothy or
eighteen year old Emily or sixteen year old Lauren were in the home
but Karen and ten year old Sean were in the kitchen. According to
Sean, he and his mother were “cleaning coins” at the kitchen sink
when he saw his father enter the home and shoot his mother as she
stood by him. His father allowed him to leave the home unharmed, but
he would be the only one. In the process it is believed that the
gunshots had activated the “Life Alert” system in the home and it
would audio record some of what happened over the next several
minutes. By the time Kraig Kahler was done in the home his wife, his
two teenage daughters and his wife's grandmother would all be shot.
Only Dorothy would make it alive outside the home. Kraig Kahler
would be found and arrested the following day and Dorothy Wight would
succumb to her injuries on December 1st.
James
Kraig Kahler would go on trial in August of 2011. The prosecution
not only had Sean Kahler's eye witness testimony, they had audio
recordings also. Kraig's daughter Lauren could be heard in two of
them. In one she is heard screaming while her father was walking
through the home and going after victims. In another she was being
comforted by a police officer as she lay dying saying “I don't want
to die.” Dorothy and Lauren both apparently also identified Kahler
as the shooter before their deaths. The prosecution also found Kraig
Kahler's blood inside the home and a jacket just outside that
contained a business card with his name on it. Neighbors had also
identified his SUV as being parked near the home, some even cited his
license plates for extra leverage.
In
late 2008 the family was living in Weatherford Texas where Kraig was
the director of the city utility department. The marriage was
apparently under strain and it was around this time that Karen had
met Sunny Reese. It was said that when Kraig first became aware of
the relationship between his wife and her new lover he had simply
told her to get it out of her system because they were moving to
Missouri anyway for his new job. Later it was said that he attempted
to get Karen and Sunny to include him in their relationship, to which
they denied.
On
New Years Eve of 2008 there was apparently an incident between Karen
and Kraig in which pushed Karen to file for divorce the following
month. It was said that over the next several months not only did
Kraig refuse to apparently sit back and allow Karen to move on with
his life, he became “obsessed” at keeping his marriage and as he
saw that was not likely a possibility he believed his daughters had
taken Karen's side. Within weeks of the murder Kraig would lose his
job with the City of Columbia Missouri and would be forced to move
back in with his parents in Kansas. Just exactly where Karen and the
kids were living at that point was not clear. The defense at his
trial would argue that finances had already caused Kraig Kahler's
mental health to deteriorate and that the the divorce and Karen's new
relationship had all but made him “snap.”
Throughout
the months after she filed for the divorce it was was alleged that
Kraig stalked Karen through the Internet and in person. On March
16th an incident occurred in which caused Karen to seek a
restraining order against Kraig and lead him to be charged with a
misdemeanor domestic assault charge. In her complaint Karen alleged
that Kraig had come up to her and asked (although apparently did not
wait for an answer) to sit next to her. She claimed that she got up
and he began following her repeatedly asking for a hug despite her
saying no. At some point he had blocked her from leaving the room
and then cornered her with his arms still reaching out to her. He
then gave her what she described as a “bear hug” that left her
with bruises and scrapes both from the force and from her attempts to
get away. In her claim Karen had stated “I'm afraid it will
escalate so far that someone is going to be seriously hurt.” After
her murder the charges against Kraig in this case were dismissed.
It
took the jury only two hours to come back with a guilty verdict.
They convicted him on four counts of first degree murder and one
count of aggravated burglary. Then it was time for the jury to
decide on sentencing. The defense really pushed the idea that Kraig
had been pushed to the edge mentally by the fact that his wife had
left him for a lesbian lover. In fact, the media ate that up too.
It seemed that every article mentioned it and even a few had it in
the title. They obviously were no longer fighting against a
conviction but now they were fighting against the death penalty.
They would tell the jury that prior to this Kraig Kahler had no
criminal history, well at least none that he had been convicted of.
Even in the one incident he was charged in they would argue he was
losing his grip on reality. Sean, who was now being raised by
Karen's family, wrote two notes to the court. The first stated that
he did not want his father to receive the death penalty because it
would be too hard on his grandparents, Kraig's parents, Wayne and
Patricia. The second simply stated that he did not want his entire
family to be gone.
Two
psychiatrists testified at the hearing, one for the defense and one
for the prosecution. This is common, but what is less common is that
these psychiatrists were partners in the same office. One stated
that Kraig was not rational and could not control his behavior while
the other said while he was a bit unstable it was not serious enough
that he had not understood what he was doing.
It
took the jury less than an hour to come back with a recommendation
for death. It was said that neither Kraig, nor his parents showed
any emotion to the verdict at either time. But, Kraig did show some
emotion as he was led out of the room. He turned to his parents and
said, “Take care of Sean so he's not raised by a bunch of freaks.”
Obviously this was one last dig at Karen's family.
In
February of 2018 James Kraig Kahler's conviction and sentence were
upheld. I am uncertain as to why Kansas even bothers with death
penalty cases. While they have the death penalty laws in their state
only Kansas and New Hampshire has not executed anyone since the
re-instatement of the death penalty in 1976 and yet they continue to
sentence people to death row. Currently there looks to be ten
inmates on Kansas Death Row.
It looks to me as if most of Kraig's controlling, obsessive, etc., behavior began after the affair and escalated when Karen asked for a divorce. Prior to that, it looks as if Kraig was somewhat concilliatory when it came to Karen's choices and behaviors. I'm quite sure things would have been much worse early on had Sunny been a man, and that Kraig's true nature would have revealed itself much sooner.
ReplyDeleteI wonder what the relationship was like prior to the affair. Because my sense is that Karen was probably the dominant one before then, and that she might not have been a particularly nice person, or did not treat Kraig with the respect he probably felt he deserved. But I could be wrong. Did you see anything about police reports, etc., against Kraig prior to the affair, or anything on Karen's conduct before then?
I think overtime Kraig became not only resentful of Karen but of all the women in Karen's family, including the daughters they shared, which is presumably why their son was spared. It would not surprise me if he badmouths all of them in prison. I think pretty much any woman in that home would have been in danger. It is possible that Sean only having been 10 at the time affected Kraig's decision to spare him, but I think Kraig probably would have still murdered Lauren and Emily even if either or both of them had been younger than Sean.
Kraig could have moved on, given his daughters some more time to perhaps see things his way and reconcile with them. But, instead, he chose revenge and to take away from Sean his sisters, mother and great grandmother. It was an extremely selfish act.
I've said before that I am not a proponent of the death penalty, but Kraig absolutely does belong in prison for the rest of his life. He had better options.
Hmm, I think the fact that Karen had to account for every cent she used ALL of their marriage, thats extremely controlling. She baked and sold cakes to pay for her gym membership BEFORE she met Sunny as he refused to allow her the money for it. Perhaps you don't know these things? He had a v v good income. She looked after his home and children. Thats a job btw, many men refuse to acknowledge this. He wasn't keen on her working, for obvious reasons, she would be out of his fanatical control at some times, with horror, her own money!! Karen had to give him every receipt every week. He went through them closely. A nightmare. She should never have married him, he was a freak. Also, he allowed NO phone calls after 8pm as every night they had sex at 8.30. EVERY NIGHT. Apparently, the whole family and their friends knew this fact.
ReplyDeleteOne friend related how she rang just after 8 once and Karen answered, scared and whispering that she could not speak to her after 8. NOT CONTROLLING BEFORE THE AFFAIR? Obviously there was no spontaneity or romance in this set up. Hellish. He also once asked her to accept a 3 some BEFORE she even met Sunny Reese, he wanted another man so he could 'watch'. Yuk. But she managed to fend this one off, only thing she was able to do for herself and he must have been worried she would tell everyone, as he gave up on it.
She must have had some idea of his appalling behaviour before marriage. I hope she wasn't scared of him before marriage too, which meant she didnt dare stop the wedding. Her mother had noticed with concern in their early days how Karen waited on him hand and foot at his request, even while she had v young babies. This man was/is wicked, v wicked... I think people like this are wasted spaces, the silly but apt term 'oxygen thief' fits this monster.
It is simply amazing how far American morality has sunk yet it somehow manages to degenerate further on a yearly basis. Within a generation the remaining fabric of a normal sane society will be nothing but a detested non politically correct memory. I cannot imagine what innocent and pure children are forced to endure as "normal" acceptable behaviors now much less in a decade or two. Will any sexual deviance be considered aberrant or criminal? Or will the ages of consent be abolished ,bestiality accepted and necrophilia giggled at? After all as NAMBLA argues children have a constitutional right to be loved,and hey pets can "love"back and how can you respect a corpse more than to make love to it? Being a "controlling" spouse who is cheap and hugs too hard pales in comparison to behaviors such as lesbianism in front of your children .Remember for a century the new pseudoscience of Psychiatry considered homosexuality a deviant practice and mental illness. Hundreds of studies published in scientific journals and subjected to peer revue by thousands of Doctors supported these conclusions. One day without any refutation of the prior SCIENTIFIC FACTS already established homosexual behavior is just the opposite,good,wholesome,natural even wonderful! The courts,science ,entertainment,religion and academia are all just parrots of the insanity that is Political Correctness. Insanity and mayhem are the results followed by a dust cloud as the entire rotten structure of a once fantastic Western society implodes upon itself....what a horrific waste.
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